JEFF BATTON
Life Coach Relationship Counseling Inner Healing
25+ years | 1000+ clients transformed
"Helping people break free from toxic relationship patterns and find lasting love by healing their matching wounds."
My Coaching Journey | The Coach of What Not to Do
With over 25 years of experience as a life coach, I bring a wealth of lived wisdom to guide you on your inner healing journey. I've been through it — the ego dives, the pigpen moments, the "I should've known better" hindsight. And through it all, I've become a coach of what not to do.
I've worn more hats than a southern church lady: husband, ex-husband, father, preacher, missionary, flight attendant, author, mentor, and coach. My life has played like a full season of sitcoms, with moments that'll make you laugh, cry, or throw a shoe at the screen. But every role taught me something about how we love, lose, and rise again.
MY PHILOSOPHY
We think what brings us together is chemistry — how someone looks, how they make us feel. But what actually pulls us in is what I call our matching wounds. That unspoken ache we carry — it recognizes itself in someone else. That's no accident. The purpose of relationship isn't comfort; it's healing. Iron sharpens iron.
The friction you feel isn't a flaw — it's feedback. They're not doing it to you; they're just doing their programming, and it's bumping up against yours. You're just mad the turtle can't climb a tree, but the turtle's just being a turtle.
So we leave, thinking "they're not right for me," only to find someone new — and guess what? Four years later, there they are again, just in a different body. You've changed the scenery, but the script stayed the same.
THE ROOT OF THE MATTER
That's because we're pulling the fruit off the tree thinking it'll kill it. But it only makes the roots grow deeper.
That fruit — the patterns, the triggers, the stuck places — isn't the issue. It's the evidence of the issue. And it will keep growing until the root is healed. That's the work. That's what freedom looks like.
THE PATH TO FREEDOM
When it no longer matters, when you no longer personalize it — that's when you know you're free. You'll stop judging, stop fixing. You'll start loving. Love keeps no record of wrongs. It always hopes, always trusts, always protects.
That's what I help people do: **See the mirror, read the fruit, and get to the root.**
This isn't about finding the right partner. It's about finding the right lens. And when the lens is clean, you'll finally see what's always been there: love, waiting for you to stop chasing it and start being it.
"Jeff's dedication to my success and well being has left a lasting impact to not just myself but my whole family."
-Rachel
"Jeff helped me see that I wasn't attracting broken people - I was attracting people who matched my unhealed wounds. Game changer."
- Michael R.